"How to bring up a girl", Valentina Bondarovskaya

Your daughter was born! You dreamed about her and supposed that she will be kind, gentle, beautiful person who will polite, sweetness, good in study…. Or you dreamed about boy - strong, nobles, defender and winner… But the girl was born.

Childbirth is a great event in the family life. Are we ready to this? Do we understand that consciousness of a child begin to form in womb? Do we ready to understand that child's understanding of people's behavior, communication, rights, social and ethic norms of life are forming in the family? Do we know how to bring up a child, what are the physiological and psychological differences between men and women and how to use these differences while bring up boys and girls?

The aim of this booklet - to help parents to bring up girls both successful in social life and successful wife and mother paying attention to the specific of girl development and modern views on men and women equality, family relationships development.

"How to survive during the hard age of your children? A little book for teenagers parents", Inna Didkovskaya

I want to start the booklet for teenager's parents from the sympathy.
It is really a very hard period both for parents and for children that become elder.
And you may need a lot of patience and self-support to overcome and survive during this stage of your relationships with your child.

"HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH CHILD, Katerina Babenko

Dear parents,
We would like that this booklet be your assistant.

Each mother or father wants happy communication with child, wants mutual understanding and friendship. Sometimes it's not so easy. Child's behavior often puts a hard tasks for parents - how to react on child's aggression, disobedience, hyperactivity, problems in communication with other children… Parents can feel a lot of negative feelings - anger, disappointment, guilt, helplessness…

We hope that in this booklets you manage to find ideas that help you to manage hard situation, make your life easy and make your parenthood exciting.

Communication with a child is a very large theme. So, we picked up some general principles that could be useful in different situations. And we pay special attention to some situations that are common as we see it from psychological practice with parents and children.

Good luck!

How to teach child to be independent (advises of psychologist),Tatyana Kulbachka

Each parent wants to bring child as an independent person. But very often it's appear that son or daughter grows up, gets marriage, has own children but still are dependent, could not manage hard life situations, as we say is "not self-dependence".
How to bring up such features as responsibility for own behavior, independent decision making, and possibility to protect him/her self, self-confidence? Each parent wants to see in future such features in his/her child.

Children upbringing is creative and interesting process that could bring a lot of pleasure and happy feelings. From the other hand children upbringing is a long and complicated process. That process demands attention and efforts because each child is a unique personality but in the same time there are some appropriateness in child development that are typical for any person.

"How to bring up a boy" , Nataliya Shishlova

May be you have already feel all happiness and hardness of boy upbringing?
Or may be you just waiting your boy will born. And you want to know how to bring up a man, how to feel pleasure that such interesting person is growing up near you?

This booklet will help you to understand the peculiarities of inner world of a boy, motives of his behavior and aims of his upbringing.

You will find the answers on the question: how to help a boy to realize his unique tasks - to be strong and sensitive, act as he suppose necessary for himself, family and society.

"When the child makes you crazy" , Olena Voziyanova, Olena Demirska

Your child makes you crazy. Do you know such times? Does this happen each day or even many times per day? And you do not know what to do, do you?

You want to be good parents but you can not. Each day your child makes you crazy. So, you need to feel anger, to cry, even to beat him/her. You can not see any exit. You do not know what to do.

Let's try to discuss this issue and find ideas.

"How To Teach Children To Safe Behavior", O.Vozianova. This booklet was published with support of the UNIFEM Fund, 1998

Materials from the book of Paul Statmen "The Safety of Our Children" were used during preparation of the booklet.

Can we teach our children to safety without passing to them our own fears? How to show the caress without sharing our anxiety?
We want our children to be careful but not fearful. However, we do not know how to instill carefulness to them without instilling the fear.

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"A Child And Its Rights. A System Of Keeping Human Rights In The Family And A Strategy Of Child Psychological Trauma Prevention", N. Abdel-Khadi, T. Kulbachka, O. Kurylenko. This booklet was published with support of the Department of Press, Education and Culture of the US Embassy in Ukraine, 1999

A General Declaration of human rights was adopted by the UN General Assembly on December 10th, 1948. It's purpose was "… to accept the dignity peculiar to every member of a human family and to accept the equal and inalienable rights of every person… which is a basis of freedom…, justice and general peace…"
This Declaration states:
- Every person has the right for life, freedom and personal protection;
- Nobody should suffer from tortures, cruel and inhuman behavior or punishment that disgrace him/her.

How are the child's rights being violated in the family?
Keeping the declared human rights is very important for the relations between the family members. Violation of the human rights in the family, violence against mother, father or other family members has the same influence over child's psyche as if all these things were happening to it.

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"Don't Wake Up The Trouble. What Family Do We Live In?", K. Babenko, O. Vozianova. This booklet was published with support of the Department of Press, Education and Culture of the US Embassy in Ukraine, 1999

How do we usually understand violence?
In most of the times we only treat as violence only physical violence.
It is difficult even to assume how often we show violence or become its victims.
It turns out that violence is:
- threats to cause bodily injuries to self of other;
- unclear phrases like: "I will get you!"
- threats to leave, to take the children, not to give money, to divorce, to tell something;
- causing injuries to the pets with the purpose of taking revenge on the partner;
- breaking and destroying personal belongings, using swear-words;
- using bad language;
- humiliating, offending, constant underlining of the shortcomings
- controlling, limiting conversation, spying;
- forbidding to go to sleep or forced waking up process;
- blaming in all the problems;
- criticizing thoughts, feelings and deeds;
- treating the person as a servant;
- ignoring.

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"Your Child Is Not Self-Confident", T. Kulbachka. This booklet was published with support of the Alliance Counterpart/USAID Program, 2000

If you notice that your child:
- is fearful, anxious, distrustful, too self-restrained;
- suffers from loneliness;
- can't express its opinion;
- can't demonstrate its talents;
- is being underestimated by others
You can help your child bridge over these problems at any age.

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"Close By The Child. Advice For The Parents. What Should You Do If Your Child Has Suffered From Violence?", K. Babenko . This note was published with support of the Young Christian Women Organization, 2001

One of the dearest wishes of all parents is that their child never faces violence and cruelty. Letting the child into the "big world", we think how to teach our child act in situations when he/she is being treated with cruelty, violence or humiliation. We try to warn our child against any problems, against the violence; we try to teach it the rules of safe behavior.
However, what should we do if the child has suffered from violence?